Luis is currently on a new schedule. We are so excited because he will be off on the weekends now, but that means shopping is up to me and the boys. Thursday I found it in myself to finally just go get what we needed from Target. The boys begged to take their tablets and lets face it, it is much easier for me to shop if they are distracted with an exciting game, needless to say I caved. So with the boys sitting in the cart and Josiah strapped to my chest I floated through the aisles of Target. I had been there a total of 5 minutes before Eli asked to use the bathroom. Of course. How could I get mad when he was finally starting to vocalize he had to go- it only took him a year of potty training!
I raced across Target to the bathrooms, unloading the kids from the cart and hauling them to a bathroom stall. I assisted Eli with Josiah looking up at me from the Ergo, I must say he is such a team player. We finished up in the bathroom and into the cart they went and down the aisles for another try at shopping. I tried to hurry since I needed to head to the actual grocery store after. I double checked my Cartwheel app to make sure I wasn't forgetting anything and headed to the checkout register.
I was unloading the cart when Eli said he had to go again! I told him to hold it for just a few minutes and he confessed he had already gone. I felt my face get flushed when suddenly the sweet lady behind me looked at me and said, " You have your hands full, let me help you." Before I could say "It's okay I got it," she was already reaching at the bottom of the cart for the sparkling water. I was surprised to be honest, normally I get people staring and I could hear their thoughts saying, "What is she doing out with all those kids!" I thanked her and Eli did as well, although he added that he loved her followed by a, "who is she?!" I swear that kid is hilarious. He says the most random things to people.
As I walked to my car I thought of what a kind act the lady had done. It actually crossed my mind that, like Eli, I might love her too! I rarely run into people that help me with anything, unless they know me or something. When I go out with all the boys and they don't bring along their tablets, it gets pretty chaotic. They want to run around, they argue over who touched who, they want a candy, they want to stop and look at the toys and when I tell them we can look but not buy they cry, it really is a mission going to the store with my boys. I feel judged, sometimes, by people when I scold the kids, as if I am inadequate at being a parent. When I am too drained to scold them and just let them be kids I get the stink eye and the snarky remarks. The point is you're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't.
But this lady, her face and smile still very vivid in my mind, did not judge or give stink eyes, she offered a hand. That one act of kindness made me realize there is people out there who understand. She made a difference in my day and to that kind lady I say, "Thank you! For those 3 min you took of your time, you made my life a bit easier. And your non judgmental attitude made me feel better about being a parent to 3 crazy boys. We love you!" Haha!!