Tuesday, April 11, 2017

From a Clubfoot Dad


My blog is mainly geared toward women. I share motherly thoughts, beauty insight occasional recipes and my family's lifestyle. Today however, the post is written by the man in my life. The one who God has sent to keep me sane! I asked him to write this post a while back ago and I am so thrilled to share his thoughts on what it's like to be a clubfoot daddy to our son Josiah. 


When I first found out Josiah was going to be born with clubfoot I just went blank. I did not know what to do or say. I remember these thoughts going through my head. "Is he going to be normal ? What is clubfoot? Is my son ever going to walk?" The doctor conducting the ultrasound was no help by immediately asking us if we were thinking about terminating the pregnancy. After he said those words I thought clubfoot was a serious condition that had no cure. My wife and I left that office in shock and disbelief that this was happening to us. I remember praying to God in my head on the car ride home asking him to please cure him and let him be normal when he is born.

As soon as I got home and started googling and researching online what was clubfoot I started to realize that we could beat this condition. Clubfoot can be treated and my son Josiah can live a normal life. We had a few more ultrasounds after the initial diagnosis and the doctor said that the clubfoot was bilateral and was still there. Even until the day Josiah was born I had this thought in the back of my mind just hoping that the ultrasound doctors were wrong. When I first saw Josiah on the day of his birth I noticed that the clubfoot was there, but it didn’t matter anymore. He is my 3rd child and I love him no matter what. I was happy he was here and we would fight this together.



I must admit the first 6 months of after Josiah was born went by so fast. We went through numerous doctor appointments during the casting phase (including changing his doctor midway), a tenotomy procedure and one weeks stay at the hospital because of bronchitis when he was 10 days old. Josiah has gone through so much during his young life. More than any parent would want their child to endure, but I believe it has made him so much stronger. When he wants something he is very persistent and usually gets it. He is my little champion and Daddy is so proud of him.

Today we are still going through the treatment process for Clubfoot. We are in the boots and bar stage and Josiah is on 12 hour wear. We still have a long road ahead for us, but we will continue to fight on and make dang sure that we beat this. I can’t thank my wife Dominique enough, she has made this process a lot easier for our family to endure. She has been persistent with the treatment, changed doctors when something didn’t seem right and asked lots of questions. She got our other 2 boys, Abram and Eli, involved with the treatment process by educating them about clubfoot and letting them know off the bat that Josiah is a normal little boy and that he is no different from anyone else. Also with helping other parents going through the clubfoot process with this blog.

My advice for any father with a child with clubfoot is ask lots of questions and if something doesn’t seem right seek a second opinion, get involved with the treatment process by learning how to put the boots and bar on just as fast as your wife ūüėĀ.With time the process gets easier. Josiah is almost 2 years old and believe me that if I can go back I would not change a thing. Josiah is a blessing in our lives and he is a joy to have as my son. 
-Luis



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Mi blog est√° orientado principalmente hacia las mujeres. Comparto pensamientos maternales, recetas ocasionales, de productos de belleza y el estilo de vida de mi familia. Hoy, sin embargo, el mensaje est√° escrito por el hombre en mi vida. El que Dios ha enviado para mantenerme sensata! Le ped√≠ que escribiera este art√≠culo hace un tiempo atr√°s y estoy muy emocionada de compartir sus pensamientos sobre lo que es ser un pap√° de ni√Īo con pie equino varo para nuestro hijo Josiah.

Cuando descubr√≠ por primera vez que Josiah iba a nacer con pie equino varo, me qued√© en blanco. No sab√≠a qu√© hacer ni qu√© decir. Recuerdo estos pensamientos pasando por mi cabeza. "¿Va a ser normal? ¿Qu√© es el pie equino varo? ¿Mi hijo podra caminar?" El m√©dico que realiz√≥ el ultrasonido no fue de ayuda al preguntarnos inmediatamente si est√°bamos pensando en terminar el embarazo. Despu√©s de decir esas palabras, pens√© que el pie equino varo era una enfermedad grave que no ten√≠a cura. Mi esposa y yo dejamos esa oficina en estado de shock y la incredulidad de que esto nos estaba pasando. Recuerdo haber orado a Dios en mi cabeza en el viaje de vuelta a casa pidi√©ndole que lo curara por favor y que fuese normal cuando nazca.

Tan pronto como llegu√© a casa y comenc√© a buscar y investigar en l√≠nea lo que era pie equino varo comenc√© a darme cuenta de que pod√≠amos superar esta condici√≥n. Pie equino varo puede ser tratado y mi hijo Josiah puede vivir una vida normal. Tuvimos algunos ultrasonidos m√°s despu√©s del diagn√≥stico inicial y el m√©dico dijo que los pies segu√≠an igual. Incluso hasta el d√≠a en que naci√≥ Josiah, tuve este pensamiento en el fondo de mi mente s√≥lo esperando que los m√©dicos de ultrasonido estuvieran equivocados. Cuando vi por primera vez a Josiah el d√≠a de su nacimiento, not√© que si ten√≠a pie equino varo, pero ya no importaba. √Čl es mi tercer hijo y lo amo, pase lo que pase. Estaba feliz de que estuviera aqu√≠ y pelearemos juntos.



Debo admitir que los primeros 6 meses despu√©s de que Jos√≠as naci√≥ pasaron tan r√°pido. Pasamos por numerosas citas m√©dicas durante la fase de yesos (incluyendo el cambio de su m√©dico a mitad de camino), un procedimiento de tenotom√≠a y una semana de estancia en el hospital debido a la bronquitis cuando ten√≠a 10 d√≠as de edad. Josiah ha pasado tanto por su corta vida. M√°s que cualquier padre quisiera que su hijo perdure, pero creo que lo ha hecho mucho m√°s fuerte a√ļn. Cuando quiere algo es muy persistente y generalmente lo consigue. √Čl es mi peque√Īo campe√≥n y pap√° est√° muy orgulloso de √©l.

Hoy todav√≠a estamos pasando por el proceso de tratamiento de Clubfoot. Estamos en la etapa de botas y Josiah est√° en 12 horas de uso. Todav√≠a tenemos un largo camino por delante para nosotros, pero vamos a seguir luchando y estar seguros de superar esto. No puedo agradecer a mi esposa Dominique mas pues ella ha hecho este proceso mucho m√°s f√°cil para nuestra familia para soportar. Ella ha sido persistente con el tratamiento, cambi√≥ de m√©dico cuando algo no parec√≠a correcto y le hizo muchas preguntas. Ella consigui√≥ que nuestros otros 2 ni√Īos, Abram y Eli, participaran en el proceso de tratamiento educ√°ndolos sobre el pie equino varo y record√°ndoles de que Josiah es un ni√Īo normal y que no es diferente de nadie. Tambi√©n en ayudando otros padres que pasan por el proceso del pie equino varo escribiendo este blog.

Mi consejo para cualquier padre con un ni√Īo con pie equino varo es hacer muchas preguntas y si algo no parece correcto buscar una segunda opini√≥n. Participar en el proceso de tratamiento por aprender a poner las botas y el fiero tan r√°pido como su esposa. ūüėĀ Con el tiempo el proceso se hace m√°s f√°cil. Josiah es casi 2 a√Īos y creo que si puedo volver no cambiar√≠a nada. Jos√≠ah es una bendici√≥n en nuestras vidas y es una alegr√≠a tener como mi hijo.
-Luis


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