I have had a pretty tough week. I hate to complain and I'm not one to grovel in self pity, but I am one exhausted mother!
For those of you who think a stay at home mom has an easy job, you are so incredibly wrong! It may seem like we don't do much, but trust me we do. We wake up in the morning to take on the day with loads of coffee and even more loads of grace. We don't get to clock out at 5 o'clock to go home to kids who have missed us and want to tell us about their day. We never clock out and are always home with kids who have colored the walls and thrown tantrums because they can't have popsicles for breakfast, lunch and dinner. We make meals, clean the house, do the laundry, wash the dishes, run the errands- all with just one hand- while the other hand cleans boogers and tears, changes diapers, wipes butts, plays super heros and colors endless pictures in coloring books.
A stay at home mom's thoughts are never her own because they get jammed with legos. She gets interrupted while in the bathroom, if she gets to go at all. She forgets if she showered or not, and while in the shower forgets if she shampooed her hair. There is always screaming or crying in the background of her phone calls, so it's better to just call her back in 5 years- actually make that 10.
There is never a full nights sleep ever again, which is probably the hardest part because she is expected to function and be a superhero in the morning. Just when she thinks she is going to sleep, the next door neighbor's dog barks and wakes up her tired baby who will not go back to sleep until he nurses, yet again- this happens every hour to 2 hours a night. So if you calculate that is only 3-4 hours of sleep total.
Lord forbid stay at home moms get sick, because she can not rest or recoup and on top of that she probably gets everyone else in the house sick as well. Although her whole body may hurt when she is sick she still has to do some sort of gymnastics while bathing the kids. She has to hold those babies and kiss those scrapes regardless of her feeling stuffy and weak.
Once a month she is cranky and irritable and widely misunderstood for being a mean mom when all she wants is a heating pad, chocolate cake and a romantic movie that makes her cry it all out.
So please, next time you see a stay at home mom and think how easy her job may be, think again. Try to remember she is very very very sleep deprived, probably never gets a minute alone, and her house might be dirty, but believe me she is definitely trying to keep it together. Most of us try to juggle it all while staying sane, keeping the kids alive and healthy, and trying to remember we love our life.
This is my motto these days!